
What can a retail expert and musician teach us about creating memorable experiences? And what can a career and mindset coach reveal about resilience, reinvention and navigating change? More than you might imagine!
Have you ever walked into a shop, restaurant or business and immediately felt welcome?
Perhaps someone greeted you with a genuine smile, remembered your name or took the time to understand what you actually needed.
You might not even remember everything you bought, but you’ll probably remember how that experience made you feel.
Now think about the opposite.
Have you ever walked into a business and felt completely invisible? Or perhaps you were made to feel that asking a question was an inconvenience?
Chances are, you remember that too!
It’s something I’ve believed throughout my years of bringing people together through 1230 The Women’s Company.
And it was a theme that emerged from two fascinating conversations on my 1230 TWC Business Beat Radio Show, featuring customer experience specialist Sam Bowden and career and mindset coach Bhavya Arora.
Although their professional backgrounds are very different, both offer valuable insights into how we connect with people, respond to challenges and create opportunities.
Let’s explore what business owners can learn from their experiences.
Sam Bowden: Customer Experience Is Everyone’s BusinessWith more than 20 years of global retail experience, Sam Bowden has built his career around understanding what makes customer experiences memorable.
His professional journey has taken him from Sales Ambassador to senior retail leadership and training roles, giving him firsthand experience of what happens on the shop floor as well as behind the scenes.
Today, Sam works with retail teams and internationally recognised businesses, including HMV, Heal’s, concessions within Harrods, and Barker and Stonehouse.
He’s also a TEDx speaker, sharing ideas about communication, human connection and the importance of creating meaningful experiences.
Sam’s approach combines high professional standards with energy, enthusiasm and enjoyment.
And I particularly like that combination.
Because excellent customer service doesn’t have to be stiff, scripted or overly formal.
In fact, some of the most memorable experiences happen when people are encouraged to bring their personality into what they do.
You don’t need a huge budget or an expensive marketing campaign to make customers feel valued.
Often, the biggest improvements begin with small, thoughtful actions.
Whether someone walks through your door, visits your website, sends an email or joins an online meeting, their first experience matters.
A warm welcome, clear information and a helpful attitude can immediately establish confidence.
One of the most common mistakes in business is assuming we already know what someone needs.
Ask questions. Listen carefully. Be genuinely interested.
Sometimes the most useful thing you can do is allow someone the space to explain their situation.
People want to feel recognised as individuals, not simply as another transaction.
Remembering a name, referring to a previous conversation or following up on something important can make an enormous difference.
Customer experience isn’t only about the big gestures.
It’s also about returning calls, keeping promises, providing clear instructions and making things easy for people.
Reliability builds trust.
What happens after someone leaves your shop, completes a purchase or finishes a meeting?
A thoughtful follow-up, a helpful resource or a genuine thank-you can turn a one-off interaction into a lasting relationship.
And that’s where business opportunities often begin.
There’s another interesting dimension to Sam’s expertise: his experience as a musician.
Music and business might initially appear to be very different worlds, but I think they have more in common than we sometimes realise.
Consider what makes a great musical performance.
It takes preparation, practice, technical ability, creativity and confidence.
But those qualities alone aren’t enough.
A musician also needs to understand the audience, communicate emotion, respond to what’s happening around them and work effectively with others.
Sound familiar?
In music, listening is fundamental.
A musician who only concentrates on their own performance, without paying attention to the other musicians or the audience, can quickly lose the connection.
The same applies in business.
If we’re so focused on delivering our sales pitch that we forget to listen, we may miss the very information that could help us understand a potential customer.
Whether you’re performing on stage, leading a team or meeting a new business contact, listening helps create understanding and connection.
Think about a group of musicians performing together.
Each person has a different role, but the performance succeeds when everyone understands how their contribution fits into the whole.
Businesses are no different.
Customer service, marketing, administration, leadership and sales all influence the overall customer experience.
If one part of the organisation isn’t working well, customers can feel the difference.
Creating a great experience requires teamwork, communication and a shared understanding of what the business wants to achieve.
Musicians rarely deliver outstanding performances without preparation.
They rehearse, refine their skills, learn from mistakes and continue improving.
Yet in business, we sometimes expect people to deliver exceptional service without giving them the training or support they need.
Investing in people isn’t simply an operational expense.
It’s an investment in confidence, capability and customer relationships.
And when people feel confident and supported, they’re often better equipped to deliver an enjoyable experience for others.
Sam’s customer experience expertise raises an important question:
It’s something I talk about frequently in networking.
You can attend dozens of events, introduce yourself to hundreds of people and collect a mountain of business cards.
But what happens next?
Do people remember you?
Do they understand what you offer?
More importantly, do they feel comfortable enough to approach you again?
Being memorable isn’t necessarily about having the loudest voice or the most impressive presentation.
It’s about being authentic, showing genuine interest and creating a positive connection.
A great customer experience and a great networking conversation often begin in exactly the same way:
While Sam’s expertise focuses on the experiences we create for other people, Bhavya Arora’s work encourages us to look at something equally important.
The relationship we have with ourselves.
Bhavya’s journey has taken her from India to the UK, through professional experiences in finance and at Discovery Channel, and into a new chapter of personal and professional reinvention.
Choosing love, adapting to change and experiencing motherhood all played a part in reshaping her identity.
Today, as a career and mindset coach and author, Bhavya supports people seeking greater clarity, confidence and connection with themselves.
Her approach is rooted in resilience, authenticity and the courage to navigate change.
And those are qualities every entrepreneur needs.
We hear a great deal about resilience in business.
We’re told to be strong, keep going, bounce back and never give up.
But I sometimes wonder whether we make resilience sound more complicated than it needs to be.
After all, business owners are human!
We experience disappointment, uncertainty, frustration and occasional moments when everything seems to happen at once.
A difficult client, an unexpected expense, a cancelled project or a change in personal circumstances can affect even the most experienced entrepreneur.
Resilience doesn’t mean pretending that these challenges don’t matter.
It means developing ways to respond constructively, seek support when necessary and keep a sense of perspective.
Bhavya offers a particularly useful reminder:
I think that’s a phrase worth remembering.
Imagine you’ve spent weeks preparing a proposal for a potential client.
You’ve researched their needs, developed your ideas and invested considerable time in the opportunity.
Then you discover they have chosen someone else.
It’s disappointing, of course.
But does that mean you’re not good at what you do?
Absolutely not!
There could be dozens of reasons for their decision, many of which have nothing to do with your ability.
When we personalise every setback, it’s easy to become discouraged.
But when we look at the situation more objectively, we can ask more useful questions.
What can I learn?
Is there something I could improve?
What might I do differently next time?
And, perhaps most importantly, what’s my next step?
That’s where resilience becomes practical rather than simply motivational.
You can’t control every decision, customer response or change in the market.
But you can influence how you prepare, communicate and respond.
Concentrating on those things helps prevent unnecessary frustration.
Changing direction isn’t automatically a sign of failure.
Sometimes a business model, service or strategy that worked brilliantly in the past needs to evolve.
Being adaptable can open doors you hadn’t previously considered.
Running a business can occasionally feel lonely, particularly when you’re responsible for making every decision.
Having people around you who understand the challenges can make an enormous difference.
Sometimes you need practical advice.
Sometimes you need an introduction.
And sometimes you simply need someone to listen.
It’s easy to become so focused on the next target that we forget to recognise how far we’ve already come.
Celebrate the successful meeting, the new connection, the difficult conversation you handled well or the small improvement you’ve made.
Progress deserves recognition.
Bhavya’s appreciation of both adventurous experiences and quieter moments offers an important reminder.
Life doesn’t have to operate at full speed all the time.
Rest, reflection and time away from work can help us return with fresh perspective.
You don’t have to be constantly busy to be making progress.
One of the things I find particularly interesting about Bhavya’s story is the idea of reinvention.
Very few business journeys follow a perfectly straight line.
We learn new skills, meet different people, discover unexpected opportunities and sometimes realise that our original plans no longer reflect what we want.
And that’s perfectly normal.
When I established 1230 The Women’s Company, I knew how important meaningful business connections could be.
Over the years, that belief has remained central to everything I do, even as the ways we connect, communicate and work have changed.
From face-to-face networking to online meetings, radio conversations, mentoring and writing, new opportunities have developed through listening, learning and responding to what people need.
The important thing isn’t to remain exactly where we started.
It’s to continue growing while staying true to the values that matter to us.
So, what connects Sam Bowden’s expertise in customer experience and music with Bhavya Arora’s work in mindset and resilience?
For me, the answer is human connection.
Sam’s work reminds us to understand the people we serve.
Bhavya’s work reminds us to understand ourselves.
Both require awareness, listening, empathy and the willingness to learn.
Both encourage us to move beyond automatic reactions and think more carefully about how we communicate.
And both can contribute to stronger businesses.
After all, if we’re constantly overwhelmed, it’s difficult to give our customers our best.
Equally, if we don’t understand our customers, even the most carefully developed business strategy may struggle to deliver the results we want.
Looking after your own mindset and looking after your customer relationships aren’t competing priorities. They support one another.
Of course, I couldn’t write about connection without talking about networking!
At 1230 The Women’s Company, we believe that networking should be supportive, enjoyable and genuinely useful.
It’s not about delivering a rehearsed sales pitch to everyone you meet.
It’s about conversations.
It’s about discovering what other people do, understanding their challenges, sharing experiences and recognising where opportunities for collaboration might exist.
And the lessons from Sam and Bhavya fit beautifully into this approach.
From Sam, we can learn to create a positive experience for everyone we meet.
From Bhavya, we can learn to approach networking with greater confidence, authenticity and resilience.
Not every conversation will lead to immediate business.
Not every introduction will become a customer.
And that’s absolutely fine!
Sometimes a conversation leads to a friendship, a recommendation, a fresh perspective or an opportunity that doesn’t emerge until much later.
That’s why consistency, curiosity and genuine interest matter.
If you’ve reached this point and you’re wondering how to turn these ideas into action, here are three simple suggestions.
Look at what happens when someone first contacts your business.
Is it welcoming, straightforward and helpful?
Identify one small improvement you could make.
Think about something that’s been frustrating you recently.
Instead of treating it as a personal setback, ask what you can learn from it and what constructive action you can take.
Contact someone in your network simply to find out how they are and what they’re working on.
Listen, be interested and see where the conversation leads.
You might be surprised by what develops.
Sam Bowden and Bhavya Arora approach business and life from different perspectives, but their experiences offer a shared reminder.
Success isn’t only about technical expertise, qualifications or financial results.
It’s also about how we connect with people, how we respond when things become difficult and how willing we are to keep learning.
Music reminds us of the importance of rhythm, listening, preparation and teamwork.
Customer experience reminds us that people want to feel valued.
Resilience reminds us that challenges don’t have to define us.
And networking brings these lessons together through meaningful human relationships.
So, the next time you meet a potential customer, attend a networking event, face a business challenge or consider trying something new, remember:
Listen carefully. Make people feel valued. Don’t take every setback personally. And never underestimate the power of a genuine conversation.
Because you never know where that conversation might lead.
And that’s what 1230 The Women’s Company is all about.
If you’d like to discover more inspiring business conversations, practical advice and fascinating guest stories, listen to the 1230 TWC Business Beat Radio Show podcast:
Or, if you’d like to experience the power of meaningful networking for yourself, explore our online and in-person meetings:
Visit 1230 The Women’s Company
And if you’d like to connect with me personally, I’d love to hear from you.
Email: jgroundsell@1230.co.uk
Until next time, keep connecting, keep learning and keep supporting one another.
Jackie Groundsell
Founder, 1230 The Women’s Company
Radio Presenter, Author and The Queen of Connections

Jackie Groundsell
The Queen of Connections
1230 TWC
How to Put Up a Roller Banner When You’re Short
Ever struggled to put up a roller banner that’s taller than you? At 5′ 4½”, Jackie Groundsell knows the challenge! Discover her practical trick for assembling a roller banner, plus useful tips for exhibitions, business networking and making your display stand out.
How to put up a roller banner when you’re shorter than the banner itself!
Have you ever found yourself at a business exhibition, networking event or trade show, wrestling with a roller banner that’s considerably taller than you are?
I have!
You know the ones. Those lovely, professional-looking, retractable roller banners that arrive in a neat little carry-case. They look so innocent, so portable, so easy to use.
Until you try to put one up!
The average roller banner is around 6′ 5″ tall.
I’m 5′ 4½”.
Now, I’m perfectly happy with my height, thank you very much, but when it comes to assembling a roller banner, those missing inches can make life rather interesting!
Opening the case is easy enough. Taking out the folded pole is no problem. Even slotting the pole together is straightforward.
But then comes the challenge.
You have to pull the banner out of its base, extend it to its full height and somehow hook the top onto a pole that seems to be reaching for the ceiling!
And unless you’ve suddenly grown another foot overnight, this can involve a certain amount of stretching, hopping, muttering and possibly some rather undignified manoeuvres.
Standing on a chair?
Absolutely not! Apart from looking ridiculous, it’s not safe.
Borrowing a tall person?
Possibly. But what if there isn’t one around? Or they’re busy putting up their own display?
Well, fear not, my fellow vertically challenged businesswomen and businessmen.
I have the perfect method!
And the beauty of it is that you don’t need to be tall, you don’t need a stepladder and you certainly don’t need to perform acrobatics before your morning coffee.
The Roller Banner Challenge
Roller banners are wonderful marketing tools.
They’re portable, relatively lightweight, easy to store and can transform a plain exhibition space into something that looks professional and welcoming.
For small businesses, they’re particularly useful because they allow us to make an impact without investing in enormous exhibition stands.
At 1230 The Women’s Company, I’ve attended, organised and hosted more business meetings and events than I care to count.
And if there’s one thing I’ve learnt over the years, it’s that presentation matters.
Whether you’re exhibiting at a large trade show, attending a local business fair or hosting a networking meeting, you want your business to be noticed for all the right reasons.
You want to look organised, confident and ready to welcome visitors.
You don’t want your first impression to be you disappearing behind a giant piece of printed vinyl whilst trying to work out where the pole goes!
The good news is that with a little preparation and the right technique, setting up your roller banner can become a simple, stress-free job.
Even if you’re only 5′ 4½”!
First, a little word of caution.
This is the method that works for my style of roller banner. Different manufacturers use different mechanisms, so do check your own banner’s instructions first. Make sure there’s enough clear floor space, and never force the mechanism or put yourself at risk.
Now, here we go.
Take the roller banner out of its carry-case and place it somewhere with plenty of room.
Ideally, you want a clear, level floor and enough space to move around without tripping over handbags, electrical cables, chairs or other exhibitors’ belongings.
I know exhibition spaces can be crowded, but giving yourself a little breathing room makes the whole process much easier.
And do take care of that carry-case. You’ll need it again later!
Most retractable roller banners come with a folding pole, usually stored in the base or alongside the banner.
Remove it carefully and check that all the sections are present.
There’s nothing quite like arriving at an event and discovering that an essential piece of equipment has decided to stay at home!
Join the pole sections together until it’s fully assembled.
Make sure the connections are secure.
A wobbly pole isn’t going to give your banner the professional appearance you’re hoping for.
Place the base on a stable, level surface.
If your particular banner has a design that allows the base to remain steady with its feet folded away during assembly, leave them folded for the moment.
On my banner, I don’t pull out the stabilising feet at this stage.
However, if your banner’s instructions require the feet to be extended before assembly, follow those instructions instead.
Locate the hole or fitting in the metal casing and insert the assembled pole.
Make sure it’s seated securely.
So far, so good.
No stretching.
No standing on chairs.
No searching the room for a six-foot volunteer!
Now comes my favourite part.
With plenty of clear space behind you, take a firm hold of the top rail of the banner.
Carefully draw the banner out of its base, keeping it roughly around shoulder height as you move backwards.
Rather than trying to pull the banner vertically above your head, you’re extending it horizontally.
This means you can control the movement without needing arms as long as a basketball player’s!
Keep the banner straight, move slowly and maintain control of the spring-loaded mechanism.
Don’t let go of the top rail or allow the banner to snap back into the casing.
And please make sure nobody is standing directly behind you. We want to promote our businesses, not accidentally reverse into another exhibitor!
Once the banner is extended to the appropriate length, attach the top rail to the pole using the fitting designed for your particular banner.
Because you’re working at a more comfortable height, this is much easier than attempting to reach the top of a fully upright banner.
Make sure everything is properly connected before moving on.
Carefully bring the assembled banner into its upright position, keeping control of the base and pole.
This is the point where you may want a second pair of hands if your banner is heavy, unusually large or difficult to balance.
Safety first, always.
If your banner has folding feet and the manufacturer’s instructions permit this sequence, extend them fully once the banner is upright.
Check that the base is stable and the banner is standing straight.
Stand back.

And not a tall person in sight!
Now, putting it up is only half the battle.
At the end of a busy exhibition, when your feet are aching, your voice is tired and you’re dreaming of a nice cup of tea, the last thing you want is another wrestling match.
Fortunately, taking the banner down can be just as straightforward.
The general principle is to reverse the assembly process, but only where your particular banner’s mechanism allows it.
Keep a firm grip on the top rail at all times and carefully control the spring-loaded retraction.
Never simply unhook the banner and let it fly back into its base.
That can damage the banner, the mechanism and potentially your fingers!
Once the banner is safely retracted, dismantle the pole, return everything to its proper place and pack it into the carry-case.
Job done.
Time for that cup of tea!
After years of attending and organising business events, I’ve discovered that the smallest practical details often make the biggest difference.
If you’ve bought a new roller banner, don’t wait until you’re standing in a busy exhibition hall to try assembling it for the first time.
Have a practice run at home or in the office.
Work out how the mechanism operates, how the pole fits together and whether you can comfortably manage the weight.
If something doesn’t feel right, contact the supplier rather than forcing it.
A little preparation can save a lot of embarrassment later.
There’s nothing worse than arriving at an event feeling rushed.
Suddenly, the banner won’t stand straight, your business cards have vanished and someone is asking whether you’re ready to open!
Arrive early enough to set up calmly.
It gives you time to position your display, check your materials and perhaps enjoy a friendly conversation with the neighbouring exhibitors.
And we all know how valuable those conversations can be.
Sometimes your first business opportunity of the day comes before the doors even open!
A roller banner should be seen, not hidden.
Think about where visitors will be walking and what they’ll notice first.
Don’t tuck it away behind a table, coat rack or display of leaflets.
Equally, don’t put it somewhere it blocks a doorway or creates a trip hazard.
Ideally, your banner should be visible from a reasonable distance and positioned where people can approach your stand comfortably.
Remember, the banner is there to help start conversations.
It’s not supposed to become an obstacle course!
Of course, once you’ve mastered putting up your banner, there’s another question.
I’ve seen some beautifully designed roller banners over the years.
And I’ve also seen a few that contain enough information to fill a small book!
Your banner isn’t meant to tell your entire business story.
Its job is to catch someone’s attention, communicate what you do and encourage them to find out more.
Can someone understand what your business offers in just a few seconds?
If not, your message may need simplifying.
A clear headline, a short explanation and a memorable visual will often achieve more than several paragraphs of tiny text.
It sounds obvious, doesn’t it?
But I’ve seen banners where the company name is so small or surrounded by so much other information that it’s almost impossible to spot.
Your branding should be clear and recognisable.
Remember that people may be viewing your banner from several feet away.
What looks perfectly readable on your computer screen might be much too small when printed.
Keep the most important information large and clear.
And don’t feel you have to fill every inch of available space.
A little breathing room can make a design far more effective.
What would you like someone to do after seeing your banner?
Visit your website?
Ask about your services?
Book a consultation?
Join your networking community?
Whatever it is, make the next step obvious.
A QR code can be useful too, particularly if it takes visitors directly to a relevant page.
But always test it before the event!
There’s nothing more frustrating than someone scanning your lovely banner and ending up on a page that doesn’t work.
One thing I always encourage businesswomen to remember is that marketing materials are there to support you, not replace you.
A beautiful banner might attract attention.
A clever headline might make someone smile.
A striking photograph might encourage a visitor to stop.
But it’s the conversation that follows which creates the real opportunity.
And that’s something I’ve always believed at 1230 The Women’s Company.
Business is about people.
It’s about relationships, trust, shared experiences and helping one another succeed.
You might meet someone who becomes a customer, a collaborator, a supplier or simply a wonderful new connection.
You never know where one conversation might lead.
Your roller banner helps people notice you.
Now, I know my method won’t work for every type of roller banner.
Some designs need to be assembled upright, some have different support systems and others may be too heavy or awkward to manage alone.
If yours is one of those, don’t struggle.
Ask the supplier whether there’s a more suitable mechanism or a smaller, lighter banner available.
You could also consider a tabletop display if you regularly attend smaller networking events.
And there’s absolutely nothing wrong with asking someone to help.
In fact, asking for help can sometimes be a brilliant way to start a conversation.
Just don’t make a habit of recruiting the tallest person in the room every time you attend an exhibition!
They might start charging you!
Being a small business doesn’t mean you have to make a small impression.
You can have a professional display, strong branding and a memorable presence without an enormous budget or a team of people setting everything up for you.
And being vertically challenged certainly shouldn’t stop you!
I’ve always believed that running a business involves finding practical solutions to everyday challenges.
Sometimes those challenges are big — winning customers, managing cash flow, growing your business or navigating unexpected setbacks.
And sometimes they’re simply figuring out how to put up a roller banner that’s a foot taller than you are!
But the principle is much the same.
Look at the problem.
Find a sensible solution.
Share what you’ve learnt.
And if you can have a little laugh along the way, so much the better.
The next time you’re at a business exhibition or networking event and you see someone struggling with a roller banner, spare a thought for us vertically challenged business owners!
Perhaps share this little tip with them.
You might save them ten minutes of frustration, a rather undignified balancing act or an unnecessary search for a tall person.
And who knows?
That small act of kindness might lead to a lovely new business connection.
Because sometimes the simplest tips are the most useful.
“Would you like a hand with that?”
Happy networking!
Jackie Groundsell
The Queen of Connections
1230 The Women’s Company
Connecting, Supporting and Inspiring Businesswomen

One thing that struck me during the programme was how quickly the atmosphere changed once the students realised this wasn’t simply about sitting quietly in the corner and observing.
They became part of the conversation.
They were encouraged to ask questions.
They shared their own thoughts and aspirations.
They discovered that every experienced broadcaster, journalist and business owner once stood exactly where they are now—taking those first uncertain steps into the world of work.
Real work experience should never be about making tea or photocopying paperwork.
It should be about building confidence.
Giving young people permission to contribute.
Showing them that their opinions matter.
Helping them discover strengths they perhaps didn’t know they possessed.
Sometimes all it takes is one positive experience to change the way a young person sees themselves.
Confidence is something I speak about regularly at 1230 The Women’s Company.
People often imagine confident people were simply born that way.
The truth is usually very different.
Confidence grows through experience.
It grows through conversations.
It grows by saying “yes” to opportunities that feel slightly outside your comfort zone.
Walking into a radio studio for the first time can feel intimidating.
Walking into a networking event can feel intimidating.
Giving a presentation can feel intimidating.
Starting a new job can feel intimidating.
Yet every confident person you meet has almost certainly experienced those same butterflies at some point.
The difference is that they chose to keep going.
Perhaps one day these five young people will look back on their afternoon in the radio studio as one of those defining moments when they realised they were capable of far more than they imagined.
As someone who has spent more than two decades bringing people together through networking, I often say that the best communicators aren’t necessarily the best talkers.
They’re the best listeners.
During the programme, it was wonderful to watch the students listening carefully to one another as well as to the conversations taking place around them.
Listening isn’t passive.
It is an active skill.
It’s how we learn.
It’s how we understand different perspectives.
And it’s how meaningful relationships begin.
Whether you’re interviewing someone on the radio, attending a networking meeting or simply meeting somebody for coffee, listening is often the greatest gift you can give.
Work experience also reminds us of something else.
Communities thrive when local businesses work together.
Life In… Magazines gave these young people an opportunity.
The radio station welcomed them into the studio.
Other local businesses continue to support work placements, apprenticeships and mentoring opportunities throughout our borough.
Each organisation may only play a small part.
But collectively those parts create something much bigger.
They create opportunity.
And opportunity has a remarkable habit of multiplying.
One introduction becomes another.
One conversation leads to another.
One opportunity creates another.
That’s exactly how strong business communities are built.
People sometimes ask why I enjoy networking so much.
The answer is actually very simple.
Because I never know which conversation is going to matter.
It may be the conversation that introduces someone to their future employer.
It may be the conversation that starts a new business partnership.
It may be the conversation that gives someone the confidence to launch a business.
Or perhaps it’s simply the conversation that reminds someone they’re capable of achieving more than they thought possible.
That’s why I still become excited every time I walk into a room full of people.
Because conversations change lives.
I’ve seen it happen time and time again.
I sincerely hope each of these young people continues following their ambitions, wherever those ambitions eventually lead.
Perhaps one will become a journalist.
Another may work in broadcasting.
One may pursue forensic science.
Someone else may discover an entirely different career they haven’t even considered yet.
Whatever happens, I hope they remember that somebody believed in them enough to say:
“Come and have a go.”
Those four words can sometimes alter the direction of a life.
As I left the studio that afternoon, I found myself smiling.
Not simply because we’d recorded another enjoyable radio programme.
Not simply because the students had embraced the opportunity with enthusiasm.
But because I was reminded why I still love doing what I do after all these years.
Every week I have the privilege of meeting extraordinary people.
Some have decades of experience.
Some are only just beginning.
But every one of them has a story.
Every one of them has something to teach us.
And every one of them deserves the chance to be heard.
Perhaps that’s what the 1230 TWC Business Beat Radio Show has really become.
A place where conversations become confidence.
Where introductions become opportunities.
Where knowledge becomes inspiration.
And where one simple question continues to open doors…
Giving the Next Generation a Voice
You never know who you’ll meet, what you’ll learn, or where one conversation might lead.
Listen to and discover more from 1230 TWC Business Beat Radio
Jackie Groundsell
The Queen of Connections
1230 TWC

When people think about business networking, they often picture exchanging business cards, making introductions and building professional relationships. Whilst all of those things are important, the most valuable part of any networking meeting is often something much less obvious.
It’s trust.
At 1230 The Women’s Company (1230 TWC), we’ve always believed that the best business conversations happen when people feel comfortable enough to be themselves. For over two decades, we’ve created welcoming, supportive environments where businesswomen can share ideas, ask questions, celebrate successes and sometimes even admit that things aren’t going quite to plan.
One of the ways we encourage this openness is by observing the Chatham House Rule.
It may sound formal, but its purpose is actually very simple.
It helps create an atmosphere where honest conversations can flourish.
The Chatham House Rule states that participants are free to use the information received during a meeting, but neither the identity nor the affiliation of the speaker, nor that of any other participant, may be revealed without their permission.
In simple terms:
You are welcome to share what you have learned.
You do not share who said it.
It isn’t about secrecy.
It isn’t about confidentiality agreements.
It’s about respect.
It allows people to speak openly, knowing that their experiences, ideas and questions won’t later be attributed to them without their consent.
Why Does This Matter in Business?Running a business isn’t always easy.
Behind every successful entrepreneur is someone making decisions, solving problems and sometimes facing uncertainty.
There are occasions when business owners want to ask questions such as:
These are real conversations.
But they only happen when people feel safe enough to ask them.
If someone worries that their comments may be repeated outside the room, they are far more likely to remain silent.
Silence helps no one.
Trust helps everyone.
One of the things I’ve learned over more than twenty years of bringing businesswomen together is that networking has never really been about selling.
It’s about relationships.
Business naturally follows when relationships are built on trust, mutual respect and genuine interest in one another.
The strongest professional relationships are rarely created because someone gave the best sales pitch.
They grow because people feel comfortable, understood and respected.
That’s why the atmosphere in a room matters just as much as the people in it.
Every 1230 TWC meeting is different because every woman brings her own experiences, expertise and perspective.
Sometimes conversations are light-hearted.
Sometimes they’re practical.
Occasionally, they’re deeply personal.
A business challenge may be linked to caring responsibilities, health, confidence, financial pressures or unexpected life events.
By observing the Chatham House Rule, we’re saying:
“This is a respectful place to learn from one another.”
People can ask questions they might never ask elsewhere.
They can share lessons learned without worrying that someone will repeat their story later over coffee or on social media.
The result?
More honest conversations.
More meaningful support.
Stronger business communities.
One of the greatest myths in business is that successful people always have the answers.
They don’t.
Successful people ask questions.
They seek advice.
They learn from others.
Some of the most valuable conversations I’ve witnessed over the years have started with someone saying:
“I’ve never told anyone this before…”
or
“I hope this doesn’t sound silly…”
Those conversations often become the turning point for someone else sitting quietly around the table thinking exactly the same thing.
That is the power of a trusted environment.
Every business has a human being behind it.
Sometimes we forget that.
Business owners experience the same challenges as everyone else.
Family responsibilities.
Health concerns.
Unexpected setbacks.
Moments of self-doubt.
Success is easier to celebrate—and challenges easier to overcome—when we know we’re surrounded by people who genuinely want to help rather than judge.
The Chatham House Rule supports that culture of kindness and respect.
Trust doesn’t appear overnight.
It grows gradually.
Every respectful conversation strengthens it.
Every promise kept reinforces it.
Every confidence honoured builds it further.
Eventually, something wonderful happens.
People stop worrying about saying the “right” thing and simply start having real conversations.
Those conversations lead to ideas.
Ideas lead to collaborations.
Collaborations lead to opportunities.
And opportunities change businesses.
Sometimes they even change lives.
At 1230 The Women’s Company, we don’t observe the Chatham House Rule because we have to.
We observe it because it reflects our values.
We believe businesswomen deserve spaces where they can learn openly, share honestly and support one another without fear of being quoted or misrepresented.
It creates a culture where conversations become richer, relationships become stronger and everyone benefits from the collective knowledge and experience in the room.
It’s one of the many reasons women return month after month.
Not just because of the networking.
But because of how they feel when they’re there.
In a world where information travels instantly and social media often encourages people to share everything, trust has become one of the most valuable assets any business community can offer.
The Chatham House Rule reminds us that whilst ideas are meant to be shared, people deserve respect.
It encourages openness without compromising privacy.
It creates confidence without creating barriers.
Most importantly, it helps build communities where people feel comfortable enough to have the conversations that really matter.
At 1230 TWC, we’ve always believed that the best opportunities begin with a conversation.
And the best conversations begin with trust.
Because you never know who you’ll meet, what you’ll learn, or where one trusted conversation might lead.

Jackie Groundsell
The Queen of Connections
1230 TWC

This morning, I received a spam email.
It began:
“Hello Jgroundsell Jgroundsell…”
Now, aside from the fact that it was clearly not written with care or intention, it highlighted something far more important — and something I see time and time again in business.
Poorly structured databases.
And here’s the truth…
Your database is not just a list of names.
It is one of the most valuable assets in your business.
Before someone reads your message, clicks your link, or considers working with you, they notice how you address them.
“Hello Jackie” feels warm, human and intentional.
“Hello Jgroundsell Jgroundsell” feels careless, automated and — quite frankly — unprofessional.
And in that moment, trust is either built… or lost.
Most database issues don’t start with bad intention — they start with shortcuts.
And then, over time, the problem compounds.
Emails go out.
Messages are automated.
And suddenly, your brand is communicating in a way that doesn’t reflect who you are.
If you take one thing from this, let it be this:
At the very least, you should have:
Not:
Because once your data is messy, it becomes harder and harder to fix.
You do not need complicated systems to begin with.
A simple, well-structured Excel spreadsheet is more than enough.
But — and this is important — it must be set up correctly:
Think of it as laying the foundations of your business relationships.
Because that is exactly what it is.
This is where it connects beautifully with networking.
You already know (and I say this often!) that:
Well… your database is where those relationships live.
Every name represents:
And how you store and use that information matters.
We also cannot talk about databases without mentioning GDPR.
Being GDPR compliant is not just a legal requirement — it is about respect.
When your database is clean, structured and compliant, you are building trust at every level.
It is easy to overlook this.
It is easy to say, “I’ll tidy it later.”
But the truth is:
Small details create big impressions.
A correctly addressed email says:
“I see you.”
“I value you.”
“I care about this connection.”
And in business, that matters more than ever.

Here’s a simple check you can do today:
If not — now is the perfect time to tidy things up.
That one email — “Hello Jgroundsell Jgroundsell” — will be forgotten.
But the lesson behind it shouldn’t be.
Because your database is not admin.
It is not background work.
It is the heartbeat of your business connections.
Jackie Groundsell
The Queen of Connections
1230 TWC
Go Goosey has been going for just over four years now, and if I’m being completely honest, this year feels like crunch time.
I’m someone who naturally looks forward. I’m always thinking about what’s next, what more I can do, and how I can make this business a long-term success. But I’ve learned that as a small business owner, it’s just as important to pause, look back, and remind yourself how far you’ve come, and why you started in the first place.
Because when things feel tough (and they often do), that “why” really matters.

The idea for Go Goosey didn’t come from a boardroom, a trend forecast, or a background in fashion or retail. It came from a very real, very emotional parenting moment.
I took my adopted daughter swimming for the first time. I was so excited, genuinely excited to introduce her to the joy of the water, just as my dad had done with me when I was little. It felt like one of those moments you picture in advance: splashing, laughter, confidence-building, a memory we’d both treasure.
And the swimming part was exactly that.
But then we got out of the pool… and the changing room hell began.
She was cold and crying. I was cold. The changing rooms were cramped, damp, and chaotic. Clothes stuck to her wet skin. Towels slipped. I was trying to comfort her while also wrestling soggy fabric, all the while standing there freezing myself. What should have been the calm end to a lovely family trip turned into stress, tears, and frustration.
It completely spoiled the experience.
That night, lying in bed replaying it all, I remember thinking: Surely there has to be an easier way than this.
I’m not from a fashion or retail background. I’m absolutely useless with a needle, something that has since been proven many times over while attempting to sew my daughter’s Brownie badges. Starting a children’s clothing brand was not something I ever imagined doing. But I couldn’t shake the idea.
What if there was something a child could put straight on after swimming?
Something warm, absorbent, quick-drying, and easy?
Something that removed at least part of that post-swim stress for parents and grandparents?
What followed wasn’t an overnight success story; it was six years of slow, determined work.
I researched fabrics obsessively. I spoke to suppliers. I tested materials. I asked a friend to help me make an early sample using a onesie pattern, just to see if the idea worked in real life. Eventually, I connected with a local fashion student who helped bring the concept properly to life.
In September 2021, Go Goosey was finally born.
Some people assume the name comes from goosebumps, that cold, shivery feeling after swimming. But actually, it’s inspired by the goose’s feathers, which are naturally water-repellent. Just like our fabric, they don’t just shed water – they dry incredibly quickly. Our onesies don’t just dry children; they dry on them.
We launched with a single unisex colour. That decision was deliberate. I wanted something practical, something that could be passed down to siblings or shared with friends. I knew this wasn’t an everyday purchase; it was a luxury item, but it was also so much more than just a changing towel. It was about easing stress, saving time, and making outings more enjoyable.
Like most small businesses, the journey since then has been a mix of incredible highs and very real lows.
We’ve been nominated for two local business awards, moments that felt surreal and validating. We were given £6,000 by Simon Squibb, an international entrepreneur and social media influencer who asks people one simple question: “What’s your dream?” Our post reached over 10,000 likes and attracted hundreds of comments of encouragement and support from complete strangers who believed in what we were building.
Another huge highlight was appearing on BBC Radio 4’s The Bottom Line with Evan Davis, talking about side hustles. I didn’t even mention our website, yet we sold 60 onesies in a single day and over 200 in total directly from that one airing. I received so many messages afterwards, particularly from grandparents, telling me how much they loved the idea and how useful it sounded.
Those moments are the ones I hold onto.
But there have been lows, too. I still haven’t been able to pay myself from the business. Every day is a fight to get the product seen without a marketing budget. There are constant worries about loan repayments, cash flow, and whether I’m doing enough. I juggle Go Goosey alongside my main job as an IT recruitment consultant — the job that thankfully pays the bills and keeps everything afloat.
Running a small business is exhausting, exhilarating, and terrifying all at once.
So, as I look ahead, knowing that this year really matters, I also want to acknowledge how far Go Goosey has come. What started as one cold, stressful moment in a swimming pool changing room has turned into a product that genuinely helps families. Every message, every review, every order reminds me that the struggle is worth it.
And that’s why I’m still here, working, pushing, believing — and why I’m so grateful to everyone who has supported Go Goosey along the way.
The West End dazzles with neon lights, red carpets and thunderous applause. Each night, audiences flock to London’s Theatreland to lose themselves in music, drama and spectacle. But when the curtain falls, the crowds disappear and the stage lights dim, another world begins to stir!
At Stage Door Tours, we love stories that send a shiver down the spine just as much as we love sharing hilarious backstage mishaps and theatrical secrets. Join us as we step into the darker side of the West End — where history and hauntings entwine, and restless spirits still linger in the wings.
In the quiet hours after midnight, shadows creep across velvet curtains, footsteps echo in empty aisles, and whispers drift through darkened corridors. For centuries, London’s theatres have been places of intense emotion — triumph and heartbreak, fame and failure, life-changing moments played out beneath the spotlight. Perhaps it’s no wonder that some spirits have refused to leave the stage behind.
London’s theatres are among the oldest in the world, some rebuilt multiple times after fires, wars and renovations. Beneath their ornate façades lie layers of history — and, according to many performers and staff, layers of paranormal activity too. Ghostly sightings, unexplained sounds and eerie sensations are so common in Theatreland that many actors speak of them with a casual shrug… at least in daylight.
Once the house lights go down, however, bravery can quickly falter.
The Theatre Royal, Drury Lane – The Man in GreyNo theatre on Earth is more famous for its ghosts than the Theatre Royal, Drury Lane. With a history stretching back to 1663, it has seen centuries of performances — and, some believe, centuries of hauntings.
Its most infamous resident is the Man in Grey, a silent apparition often glimpsed drifting through the upper circle. Dressed in an 18th-century cloak, tricorn hat and powdered wig, he is said to glide along the aisles before vanishing straight into the wall. Unlike many theatrical ghosts, he isn’t considered threatening. In fact, his appearance is regarded as a good omen — a sign that the show will be a resounding success.
The legend deepened during renovations in the 1800s, when builders reportedly uncovered a skeleton concealed within the theatre’s walls, clutching a dagger. Was this the Man in Grey, murdered and hidden away? Or merely a coincidence that fed the theatre’s already rich folklore? Whatever the truth, ushers, actors and audience members alike have sworn to see him — always watching, never speaking.
Drury Lane is also said to host other spirits: a distressed woman in white, phantom footsteps on the stage, and the sound of children laughing long after the doors have closed. For a theatre steeped in drama, it seems fitting that its ghosts are equally theatrical.
His Majesty’s Theatre – The Phantom Before the PhantomLong before Andrew Lloyd Webber’s Phantom of the Opera made the theatre world-famous, His Majesty’s Theatre already had a spectral reputation!
Stagehands working late at night report hearing mysterious music drifting from the empty orchestra pit — soft notes with no visible musician. Sudden icy drafts sweep across the stalls, even when doors are firmly shut, and lights have been known to flicker inexplicably during rehearsals.
Some performers whisper of an unseen presence watching from the shadows of the royal box, observing silently as if guarding the theatre. Is it a former actor unwilling to relinquish their favourite seat? Or a benevolent spirit ensuring performances go smoothly? The irony is not lost on cast members that a theatre now synonymous with a masked ghost may have harboured one long before the famous chandelier ever fell.
The Palace Theatre – Shadows at Cambridge CircusStanding proudly at Cambridge Circus, the Palace Theatre was originally built as a grand opera house — and many believe it still clings to its operatic past.
Staff have reported doors slamming shut with no one nearby, lights flickering on and off, and an overwhelming feeling of being watched in the upper levels. A brooding presence seems to linger backstage, particularly late at night when the building is quiet.
According to legend, the ghost may be a former manager, fiercely devoted to the theatre in its early days. Some say he remains bound to the building, ensuring the show goes on no matter what. Others claim he disapproves of the modern musicals that replaced the operas he loved — and makes his displeasure known through unexplained disturbances.
Whether protector or critic, the Palace Theatre’s shadowy resident certainly hasn’t taken his final bow.
Where there are ghosts, there are superstitions — and theatre is famously full of them. Many traditions were born from genuine danger in centuries past, while others seem designed purely to appease whatever spirits might be lurking backstage.
One of the most enduring is the ghost light: a single lamp left glowing centre stage overnight. Practically, it prevents accidents in the dark. Superstitiously, it’s said to keep wandering spirits occupied — or at least stop them from causing mischief.
Whistling backstage is strictly forbidden. In the days of gas lighting and flying scenery, whistles were used as cues for scene changes. A careless tune could trigger a dangerous mishap — or, if legend is to be believed, summon something far worse.
And then there’s the Scottish play. Few performers dare speak the name “Macbeth” inside a theatre, for fear of invoking a curse that has plagued productions for centuries. Those who do must quickly spin around, swear loudly and ask permission to re-enter — just in case the spirits were listening.
Behind every stage door lies more than stories of glamour and applause. There are whispers of tragedy, echoes of forgotten performances, and spirits who refuse to leave the place they loved most.
Theatres are living buildings — shaped by the passion, ambition and emotion poured into them night after night. Perhaps that energy never truly fades.
Why not join Stage Door Tours and walk the haunted heart of London’s West End? Hear tales of actors who never left the stage, glimpse the shadows behind the curtain, and uncover the ghostly legends that give Theatreland its spine-tingling magic.
AUTHOR: ERICA HASLAM

For many business owners, networking is something they do — attend an event, swap cards, make polite conversation, hope something comes of it.
But the most successful businesses don’t leave networking to chance.
They design it.
Welcome to the idea of Networking Architecture — a more intentional, strategic way of building relationships that genuinely support your business growth, rather than drain your time and energy.
Networking Architecture is the deliberate design of your networking activity so that every connection, conversation, and commitment has purpose.
Just as an architect wouldn’t build a house without a plan, strong foundations, and clear outcomes, effective networkers don’t simply “turn up and chat”. They think about:
Networking Architecture shifts you from busy to intentional.
Many people attend multiple events, join several groups, and still feel frustrated by the lack of return.
Common symptoms include:
This isn’t because networking doesn’t work — it’s because it’s often unstructured.
Without architecture, networking becomes reactive rather than purposeful.

Before you attend any event, ask yourself:
This clarity immediately changes how you show up.
More events do not equal better results.
Networking Architecture favours:
One well-chosen group where trust builds over time will outperform five random events every time.
Not every connection needs to be the same.
Think in layers:
Understanding this removes pressure and helps relationships evolve naturally.
Designing Your Personal Networking Framework
Here’s a simple way to start building your own Networking Architecture.
Ask yourself
Be honest. This is about alignment, not obligation.
Anchor points are the key spaces where you consistently show up.
These might include:
Consistency builds familiarity, trust, and momentum.
Effective networking continues after the event.
Your rhythm might include:
Small, thoughtful actions compound over time.
One of the biggest fears around networking is the feeling of having to “sell”.
Networking Architecture removes that pressure by focusing on:
When relationships are built on trust and mutual understanding, opportunities arise naturally — and often unexpectedly.
A key element of Networking Architecture is where you network.
Safe, structured environments allow:
These spaces don’t happen by accident — they’re designed with care, intention, and clear values.
When done well, networking becomes one of your most valuable business assets.
It supports:
Networking Architecture encourages you to think long-term — building something solid, supportive, and sustainable.
Networking doesn’t need to be exhausting, awkward, or random.
With a little intention and structure, it becomes:
Networking Architecture invites you to build, not drift.
And like any good architecture, when the foundations are right, everything else stands stronger.

Speaking opportunities are powerful. Whether it’s a keynote, a breakout session, a panel discussion or a community workshop, being invited to speak means being trusted — trusted with people’s time, attention, curiosity, and learning. It is a privilege that opens doors, builds reputations and connects speakers with audiences who may become clients, collaborators, champions or supporters for years to come.
And yet, organisers frequently ask the same quiet, private question:
It’s not a criticism. It’s not a judgement.
It’s a genuine reflection — born out of experience, observation, and the desire to create great events.
For many speakers, the answer is a heartfelt yes.
For others, it may be yes… but they don’t always show it.
And for some, it becomes yes… but only once they realise what was missed.
This blog is to help speakers — new and seasoned — understand what organisers look for, what audiences appreciate, and how valuing an opportunity enriches both the speaker and the event.
Because when speakers show they value the opportunity, the whole experience becomes stronger, smoother and more successful for everyone.

When a speaker accepts an invitation, their relationship with the organiser begins immediately. And how they approach the lead-up says more about them than the talk itself.
Here’s what valuing the opportunity looks like before you take the stage:
Timely replies to emails, messages and requests set the tone. Organisers juggle schedules, promotion and logistics — quick responses make their work infinitely easier.
Event pages, programmes and marketing rely on bios, headshots, talk titles and descriptions. Sending these promptly is an act of respect for the event and the audience.
Speakers who value the opportunity take the time to understand:
This shows care, professionalism and alignment.
Clarifying slides, audio, room layout, timing and equipment well in advance avoids last-minute stress. It also reassures organisers that the speaker is prepared and invested.
This is where speakers shine — or occasionally stumble.
Audiences and organisers notice far more than the content. They sense intention, presence, and genuine enthusiasm for being there.
Here’s what speakers who value the platform demonstrate:
Arriving early, not rushed, allows space for calm setup, tech checks and connection with the room.
A professional speaker knows that going over time doesn’t make their message more powerful — it strains the programme, pushes others off-schedule and can frustrate the audience.
Keeping to time is one of the greatest signs of respect.
Valuing an opportunity means being:
Audiences feel it instantly.
Great speakers don’t deliver a copy-and-paste talk. They adapt examples, stories and emphasis to the specific audience they are speaking to. This creates relevance and impact.
This is where long-term relationships are built — and sadly where many speakers forget to follow through.
Here’s how truly professional speakers show appreciation after stepping off the stage:
A short, heartfelt message of thanks to the organiser is powerful. They remember it. They feel valued. And they’re far more likely to book you again.
Posting before and/or after the event:
It’s a small action with big impact.
This can be as simple as:
It strengthens relationships and demonstrates generosity.
When speakers truly appreciate the platform they’ve been given, several things happen:
Professionalism stands out. It’s rare enough that when organisers see it consistently, they cherish it. That goodwill leads to:
They walk away with:
And they talk about it.
When everyone is prepared, aligned and respectful of time, the organiser can breathe — and the event feels polished and seamless.
Reliable, grounded, collaborative speakers rise above the noise. They become the ones people trust, book and speak highly of.
Every speaking slot — large or small — represents:
None of this is guaranteed.
None of it is owed.
All of it matters.
And when a speaker shows they value the opportunity, they lift the entire experience.
Most speakers genuinely do value the platform they’re given. Sometimes they simply need a reminder that their actions — not their intentions — signal their professionalism.

The truth is simple:
Most speakers do value the platform they’re given — deeply. Sometimes, however, in the rush of busy schedules, deadlines, business demands and travel, the actions that demonstrate appreciation get lost. It’s rarely intentional. It’s simply life moving quickly. But this is where the opportunity lies.
Because true professionalism isn’t just about delivering a great talk. It’s about the way a speaker prepares, the way they honour the organiser’s time, the energy they bring into the room, and the gratitude they show afterwards. These small, thoughtful gestures are often what organisers remember most — the signs that a speaker understands the privilege of being trusted with a stage.
Speakers who consistently show this level of care naturally rise to the top. They build stronger relationships, they receive more invitations, and they become known not only for their expertise, but for the integrity and respect they bring to every engagement. Their reputation grows quietly, steadily, meaningfully — the way the best reputations do.
So this is simply a gentle reminder, wrapped in encouragement: Valuing a speaking opportunity is one of the most powerful ways to elevate your impact.
When speakers show appreciation through their actions, they don’t just enhance the event — they strengthen their own voice, deepen their professional relationships, and create a ripple of goodwill that lasts long after the applause stops.
In the end, it’s simple:
The speakers who cherish the opportunity become the speakers people champion.
And that serves everyone — the speaker, the organiser, and the audience — in the most positive and inspiring way.


You may notice your teenager’s becoming more and more worried about going to school. Of course, it’s normal to worry sometimes, especially about exams or starting a new school. But, it can be a problem if your teenager finds school and the thought of going to school distressing. It may be a sign they’re experiencing school anxiety.
For some teenagers the anxiety is so intense they’re not able to go into school. If they do manage to get through the school day, anxiety impacts their learning. Often, friendships, confidence and health suffer too.
School anxiety may often start to interfere with day to day life. It can put a huge strain on the whole family. And it can leave you as parents feeling exhausted and stressed.
Parents often end up feeling upset and guilty as they see their teenager struggling with school and becoming more and more unhappy.
It can affect parents and carers in other ways too, especially if they have to take time off work. This stress, in turn, can make teenagers feel more worried and guilty.

School anxiety in teenagers is on the rise in the UK. A study in 2024 by the youth mental health charity stem4 found almost three in 10 secondary pupils are avoiding going to school because of anxiety. Across the UK, 28% of 12 to 18-year-olds have not attended school over the last year for that reason. Many stayed away from school because they felt unable to cope.
School staff also reported a rise in student anxiety, with 72% of secondary school staff seeing a substantial increase in anxiety among students.
Teenagers feel anxious about school for many different reasons. It may be worrying about making friends or fitting in, or they may be being bullied. It could be they’re finding schoolwork or lessons confusing. They may feel under pressure to learn in a way that doesn’t suit them or struggle with relationships with teachers.
Teenagers with special educational needs are more likely to experience anxiety about school. They may have specific needs that aren’t being supported or struggle with the school environment.
Sometimes, anxiety around school may be because they’re going through difficult experiences outside of school, either at home or within the family.

Teenagers may not open up about their thoughts and feelings, especially with their parents.
Instead, it can show up in their behaviour, such as
Its very distressing for parents to see their teenagers so anxious about school. Anxiety about school isn’t new, but for a number of reasons, it’s on the increase.

The UK education system is very focused on exams and assessments. Students have regular testing. The system is shaped so that GCSEs and A-levels shaping young people’s futures. The pressure to achieve top grades is a major factor in stress and anxiety in teenagers.
COVID-19 disrupted routines, learning and social connections. Many teenagers have found going back into school difficult. The Children’s Commissioneriii reported a sharp rise in school absence and school refusal linked to anxiety since the pandemic.
Teenagers spend much of their social life online. They are constantly comparing themselves to edited versions of other peoples lives. Social media can create unrealistic expectations and intensify fears of being judged, excluded or bullied.
Bullying can be devastating. It can turn happy teenagers into anxious, fearful and struggling ones. It can lead some teenagers to stop attending school altogether.
Even if they’re not being bullied themselves, they’ll still witness it happening to others. This increases the pressure to fit in socially. It ramps up their fear of being embarrassed or rejected. As a result, it can make school feel overwhelming and unsafe for many teenagers.

Teenagers are growing up in a world of change and uncertainty. They’re absorbing 24/7 newsfeeds full of information and concerns about climate change, economic instability and conflict. They may also have family stress. These all feed into a background of uncertainty, which can ramp up school worries.
Society in general is more open about mental health. Many young people now recognise and can name anxiety. Their parents too are also aware of the impact of anxiety. This is generally positive as families are more likely to seek help. As more people seek support it highlights issues that may have remained hidden.
My client Millie (not her real name) is a 16 year old who was struggling with anxiety around school. She had always found school stressful. She spent some time in hospital and at home recovering. When she was able to return to school again, she just couldn’t cope. By the time Millie came to see me she hadn’t been school for a whole day for several months. She had lost contact with her friends and worried a lot about social situations.
Millie had lost belief in her ability to make and keep friends. She was becoming increasingly anxious and couldn’t bear the thought of going into school. Millie was withdrawn and isolated from her peers and had lost all confidence in herself.
She felt critical about herself and compared herself to others negatively.
Millie loves art and photography. We included her love of being creative into the therapy as we worked together. Millie wanted to be able to go to school, feel comfortable, stay and attend lessons. She also wanted to feel better about talking to others and to be able to make a friend.
We worked together to help Millie manage her anxiety and panic in social situations. She learnt how to cope with her anxious feelings. When she started to feel overwhelmed, she was able to use the coping skills we had worked on together. In this way, Millie learnt she could cope and take action to help herself.
I supported Millie to conduct mini experiments. With each small step she took, she started to feel more confident. We practised what she could do in social situations. As a result, she became brave enough to speak to a girl she liked at school. They became friends and began to meet outside of school. As her confidence grew, Millie was able to spend more time at school.
Celia connected with and understood my daughter so well. Celia was so warm, welcoming and friendly that it immediately put my daughter at ease. She actually looked forward to her sessions. Celia has been so supportive. I’m so happy to see my daughter learn new ways to cope with her worries, regain her self confidence and move forward. Her confidence in being able to overcome what was making her anxious has grown so much. I am so amazed to see how far my daughter has come. She’s going to school and has friends and life at home is so much easier now. Thank you so much Celia

If your teenager is struggling at school right now, it can be overwhelming You may feel constantly stressed and exhausted by it, all. And ever more so if you’re juggling it alongside work and other family commitments. For parents, it can bring up worries about the impact on their teenagers education or future. Many also worry how it affects them socially as well. Things are probably feeling hard for your teenager too.
It’s distressing to see your teenager struggle with school anxiety. Here are some ways you can support them.
Teenagers often find it hard to talk about how they feel. You can help them to open up. It can help to allow your teenager time and space to talk where you simply listen to them.
As a parent, it’s tempting to try and come up with solutions. But teenagers need to feel understood. Even more so when they’re having a difficult time. Even though it can be hard, it’s more helpful if you can listen, acknowledge and validate their feelings. Statements you could use are
Being listened to helps teenagers feel understood and accepted. This helps them to feel less isolated and ashamed about their feelings.
Routine creates security. Regular sleep, balanced meals and predictable mornings all help regulate stress. Feeling calm when they’re at home can give teenagers a break from the anxiety they experience at school.
Mornings in a busy household with several children can be busy. It can help teenagers who are struggling with anxiety if school mornings are as calm as possible. This means trying to avoid last-minute rushing, shouting or arguments around going to school. All of these can end up making your teenager feel more anxious around school.
The thought of a full day at school may feel like too much for your teenager. You could work with them to break it down, for instance.
Breaking situations into small steps can stop them from feeling so overwhelming for your teenager.
You can work with your teenager to start with the areas they find less challenging. For instance, some teenagers find the unstructured time the most difficult so it would unhelpful to start with this. Instead, they may want to start with the lessons or school routine they find easier. Gradually exposing your teenager to situations they find challenging and for them to experience being able to cope, helps your teenager to understand they can manage their anxiety.
This approach helps them to gently face their fears and build resilience.

You can help your teenager to develop a toolkit to help them to manage their anxious feelings, such as
With practice, your teenager will be able to call on their toolkit when they notice the first signs of anxiety.
UK schools are expected to support students with mental health needs. Speak to your teenager’s form tutor, head of year or pastoral lead. Reasonable adjustments could include:
If your teenager is struggling with school anxiety, you don’t have to face it alone. Many parents feel worried, frustrated or unsure about the best way to help – and that’s completely understandable.
As a psychotherapist and cognitive behavioural hypnotherapist, I specialise in supporting young people and families who are dealing with anxiety. Together, we can:
You don’t have to wait until things feel unmanageable. Reaching out early can make a real difference.
Author: Celia Griver
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